tantrum4,
Now that is funny. Please bear with me here. I’m trying to imagine the face on the person when you are insisting that the oak your looking at is not dark enough for you !
Now, I’m back on my chair from laughing. Hey don’t get pissed at me now, that’s how we learn. there is never a dumb question right !
Yes,your right. You must buy the wood you see as it is. Usual it is red oak.Then, you choose a colour stain that appeals to you. Look at, and pick the grain pattern that you think looks best. You want to see the grain probably so, pick a transparent stain not a solid . You may even want to think of buying a gal stain they are easier to work with I find. Home Depot seems to have the best variety to choose from.
Remember that the longer you leave a stain on the wood before you wipe off the excess the darker it will be. Oak is a very hard wood so, this is not as important . But, the same would apply to an extent.
So, go out and pick your colour, they always have samples that will show how the stain will look on that type of wood.